“Everybody is you pushed out”. That’ is one of the most popular laws of assumption’s quotes ever. But what does it really mean? Does it really mean that others don’t have free will and will do what I want them to do?
So… Technically, yes. „The whole wast world is yourself pushed out”. Important to notice – „yourself pushed out”, not „you pushed out”. Why is it worth noticing?
YourSELF is who you are – the state you are wearing.
YOU is who you REALLY are, way beyond this physical reality. The true you is consciousness.
And consciousness is the only reality. And consciousness experiences the world through states – identifications.
So what „everybody is you pushed out” does really mean?
Does it mean that others are your slaves? No. Not at all. It means that they and you are one, they elongate you.
It means that everything starts within you /me, everything, including the behavior of people around you/ me, confirms your/ my concept of myself. Nothing is separated from me. Nothing and nobody. Literally…
Don’t listen to YouTubers who try to convince you that others don’t exist. (Or do it. Try what they in practice, and remember this article when you catch yourself going crazy). Others exist. They are as real as the present you, that you, you know. Me, Koti – that person hasn’t existed last year. In the past, I was someone else. And every relationship I had was different. People I know were different – I experience them differently today. They have changed because I changed – my states changed.
I changed. And I did that by changing my states, that’s the only way.
Me, Koti I am as real as others. Or the same NOT-real as others. And they aren’t puppets. They won’t do what I will make them do with the power of my mind. But they will synchronically mirror my states.
It’s always about me as only me exist.
Only myself exists – only the states I’m in create my world. Only yourself exists – only the states you’re in create your world.
That’s why don’t make it about changing others – influencing others to do things to make you happy. It will be a hard way full of struggle. And I’m not a fan of that approach.
Because if you’re focused on what do you want someone else to do you’re skipping “who do you want to be” part. You’re reacting, you want him to love you for you to be loved. While you could just enter the state of being loved and there, from there it is obvious that he loves you back.
Make it about you, your fulfillment, your happiness and you and all around you will end up fulfilled and happy.
My personal example:
My dad is diabetic, and he has always hated dieting, so you know, that attitude doesn’t go well with his condition.
Do I want it for him? NO (with million exclamation marks). But can I force him to get serious about his condition and go on a diet? Not really. So what can I do? And what have I done?
I can make it about me and become a daughter having a healthy and fit father who lives a long life. That means not being angry at him or anxious about him, but instead sure my dad is well.
Guess what. He’s dieting and already dropped some nice amount of weight.